Hanging out with my mother for a couple of days in person gives me a better understanding of what it takes to build bonds with people in a world where technology is quite obviously pulling us apart as it brings us closer (in ways that surpass reality. )
It is going to take patience. And a great deal of mindfulness I think, to overcome those moments of irritability that arise when noticing the person you are with is not quite as stimulating to our dopamine reward system, as a screen (or notification) could be.
The more I live my life, the more I realise that although some moments are incredibly uncomfortable, the joy is getting to the good stuff on the other side of those frustrations or intolerable moments.
Last night, I wrote a private post complaining about how AWFUL my evening felt in my body due to illness and endurance. It was a brief and private moment of acknowledging to myself just how painful that experience had been. And yet, do I remember the pain when I think of Pub Choir? Hell, no. I think of the magic of making art and music with a theatre filled with people, and my Mum. A cherished memory to be sure.
So, what is the truth? Perhaps the truth is about whether you feel more vital for the experience. Our bodies know this. (Or mine does)
Brain rot
I notice that I am less able to concentrate on my mother’s stories than I was even four months ago. My brain has become more addicted to technology in that time.
These thoughts lead me to suggest that how to navigate a pathway in life through a world so shaped with technology is likely to be uncomfortable.
I am not sure that all humans have the stomach to be able to withstand the discomfort, the irritability, the boredom. It is possible though. It is possible to simply ‘watch’ those sensations and thoughts and feelings pass by, while still connecting with other human beings.
How are you going with it?
What a brave new world!
IT IS UP TO US!!! Mindfulness, compassion, vulnerability. And all those good things!